What's Holding You Back?

Valorie Burton is a bestselling author, speaker, and life coach dedicated
to helping you:

  • Be happier and have more fun, even when life seems routine.
  • Navigate setbacks or disappointments that make you better, not bitter.
  • Make a major life change that's exciting and scary at the same time.

Conversation Starter: When a Woman Makes More Money than Her Honey

How do you feel about making more money than your spouse or significant other?  Do you believe men are intimidated by a woman making more money or is that just an excuse that women use to explain away deeper issues that are driving men away?  These are questions very few women had to answer in 1970 because very few women outearned men in that era.  But today, the tide has turned and it creates very real feelings and frustrations that can impact your happiness – whether you are married or you want to be.  If you are a working woman, there is a chance that you make more than your mate (or future mate).

In the United States today, almost 40 percent of wives earn more money than their husbands. In theory, it shouldn’t matter, right?  And for many women, it doesn’t.  Perhaps you are a woman who earns more than her husband, and it has never created any challenges in the dynamics of your relationship. I hope that’s the case.

But research and my experience coaching hundreds of women has shown that in many relationships – or even in many women’s desire for a relationship – financial success (or even perceived financial success) can sometimes create frustrating roadblocks. Studies even show that when women are financially dependent on their husbands, they are more loyal. But when men are financially dependent on their wives, they are more likely to cheat.  Looking to the future, the financial dynamics of relationships are likely to lean more toward women earning more. What do you think? In 2013, does it impact the relationship when a woman makes more money than her honey? How so? Leave your comments, I want to hear from you!

 

Watch my TODAY Show appearance – and subscribe to my YouTube channel!

In case you missed my TODAY Show appearance on June 7, no worries! We’ve posted it on my YouTube Channel. To automatically get my latest videos and interviews, go to www.youtube.com/valorieburton and subscribe to my channel. But I’ve posted it here on the blog for you. Watch this special segment, Coach Me If You Can, as we coach three different women through life’s obstacles and stop signs! Enjoy :)