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Fear. It creeps up on us, often without a sound. It asks, “What if everything goes wrong?” “What if I fail?” “What if I never get what I want?” And disastrous answers to those questions can send us down a path of negative thinking that spirals out of control. Psychologists call it “catastrophizing.” Next time it happens, stop fear in its path with an opposite question: What if it does work out?
What if you succeed? What if you finally get what you want? What if things go right? Asking these questions gives you a sudden burst of energy. That energy is hope. It can feel like a small light in a dark place. What if your idea does manifest into all you have hoped? What if that relationship does work out? What if your persistence despite your discouragement does pay off? What then? Then, perhaps it will all have been worth it.
This is not to say you should never have a contingency plan. But you can’t live life simply avoiding your fears. Living and working with passion means giving your all because you believe in the possibility of success. You hold more closely to your dreams and desires than your fears and doubts. So in this moment, I invite you to consider the challenge or possibility that causes you the most doubt or anxiety. You know the one, that thing that causes the persistent question, “What if it doesn’t work out the way I hope?” And ask the opposite question: What if it does work out the way I hope? Don’t just ask the question. Imagine your answer in depth. Take a moment right now. Imagine what it would look like for things to work out. Take a deep breath and close your eyes. What would it feel like? Really imagine yourself there. Imagine who is with you. What you are doing. How things are different than they are in this moment.
Now, move forward focused on the possibilities for your success. Allow your motivation to be a spirit of faith rather than a spirit of fear.
My challenge to you this week:
Choose optimism. Stop obsessing about what might go wrong, and put your energy into what could go right.
Consider the thing in your life you most want, but are afraid you will not get. What if it DOES work out? What will that look like? What action can you take that will demonstrate you are operating in faith rather than fear? Leave your comments below; I’d love to hear from you!
“I guess it just seemed like the next thing to do.” That’s how a man recently described how he ended up in a marriage that didn’t last long. Eleven months, to be exact. “We had been dating for a few years.” In other words, the couple bought into the idea of a pre-determined path. The result was disastrous.
Dating isn’t the only area of life in which choosing the “next thing” doesn’t equate to choosing the “wise thing.” It can happen in a career that wasn’t your dream, but somehow, you just keep progressing – not really wanting the promotions and the added responsibility, but pulled forward by a progressive series of steps that lead you further away from your heart’s true desire. Even in the simple everyday matters of life, like meal choices. Dessert might be the next thing the waiter offers at your favorite restaurant, but not necessarily the wise choice for that health goal you set.
If you are going to live a life that excites you, the life you were created for, you must be intentional about it. Every day, that means making wise choices. Wise choices aren’t just good choices. They aren’t just the right thing to do. They aren’t simply a choice you can “get away with.” Wise choices consider the discernment and insight that reflects lessons learned, weaknesses that can trip you up, and the desires you say you want to fulfill.
So consider the decisions you need to make this week – whether the simple ones or life-changing. Especially notice the ones that you’ve put on automatic pilot. Autopilot is only good if it ultimately lands the plane at the right destination. If instead, you find yourself repeatedly back at a place you don’t want to be, it’s time to consciously question your choices. Get quiet. Then ask, “What’s the wise choice?”
My challenge to you this week:
Consciously choose to do what is wise, rather than simply what is next.
In what area(s) of your life do you tend to do the “next thing,” even though it is not the “wise thing”? What would be the wise thing? What change would you need to make in order to consciously do the wise thing? When will you make that change? Leave your comments below; I’d love to hear from you!
“Even a fool is thought wise if he keeps silent…” – Proverbs 17:28
Have you ever found yourself with the perfect comeback for someone, but circumstances preclude you from perfect opportunity to utter it? In your mind, you have a well-thought out lecture that person needs to hear. I mean, if they could just get your eye-opening revelations, they could finally get it together! But the more you think about it, the more you realize that your words will be nothing more than wasted breath – and maybe the spark for more drama. Sometimes, you must come to the realization that getting others to fix themselves is not your responsibility.
It may sound harsh, but this week, I feel led to remind you that not all life lessons are about positivity. Some are about preservation. Your energy is powerful. Don’t give it away too easily. Your energy includes your words, your time, money, contacts and other resources. Recognize its value and spend it on people and things that give you a return on your investment. If you give it away to people who do not deserve it, you’ll waste this precious resource and wonder why you don’t have enough energy for the people and things you say matter most. When a situation deserves your energy, here’s what you’ll notice:
I’m one of those people who probably gives more chances than I should, but when I’m done, I’m really done. I move on knowing that there is nothing more I could have done. I have no guilt. I don’t have to second guess myself. And typically, I get confirmation that my decision was the right one. This is because people who push your boundaries don’t stop being who they are just because you wise up. Sometimes, silence is your answer. Preserve your words and energy. Redirect them towards something fruitful. I don’t know where this message applies in your life right now, but I believe you are crossing paths with these words because it is time to be more discerning about who and what gets your energy. Pay attention.
My challenge to you this week:
Invest your energy in what you want, not what you don’t want. Be discerning about who and what deserves a response and what doesn’t.
What situation or person entices you to move into a negative energy state? What would it look like to drop the issue and moved on? What deserves your positive energy instead? Leave your comments below; I’d love to hear from you!
Every time I do an interview for Get Unstuck, Be Unstoppable, inevitably I am asked, “What’s the first step to getting unstuck?” It’s simple. Tell the truth, I answer. Until we admit what we really want, until we acknowledge what we already know in our spirit, until we stop pretending things are OK that truly aren’t, we’re stuck. And we usually remain stuck out of a fear that we don’t know what to do with the truth. You see, the truth might cause you to admit some things you don’t want to admit. That perfect life you present to the world may not look so perfect any more. And you might be afraid that acknowledging the truth will cause your life to unravel. But what if it needs to be unraveled?
I’ve discovered that anything that can be “unraveled” but the truth needs to be unraveled – and my life on the other side of the unraveling is beautifully and wonderfully spun by the Almighty Himself. Whether it is a job you can’t stand or debt you’re embarrassed to admit you racked up or a relationship whose early signs told you to go slow, but you didn’t, facing the truth is the first step to freedom. I don’t know where this message applies to you right now, but I can assure you of this: The truth will set you free. You can deal with it now or you’ll have an even bigger mess to deal with later.
This week, perhaps my words are crossing your path because it is time to muster the courage and faith to tell yourself the truth. It is empowering to tell yourself the truth. In the moment that you embrace, you realize you have the wherewithal to handle it. Even more, you realize that when you break free from your fear, your future is unstoppable. Your real life begins with truth.
My challenge to you this week: Tell yourself the truth – about where you are, what you know and what you want. Refuse to let fear interfere.
Journaling assignment: Consider the five key areas of your life: Relationships, finances, health, work and spiritual life. What truth do you need to admit? In acknowledging the truth, what will you need to do? By taking this action, what will you be free to do? Leave your comments below; I’d love to hear from you!
A study recently published in the Journal of Neurophysiology revealed something that should astound us all: Muscle strength is largely determined not simply by the physical activity that produces muscle, but by the activity of your mind. The study of a small sample of 29 participants is an exciting example of the power of mental imagery on real life outcomes. Half of a group of volunteers had their arms placed in a cast for four weeks.
Five days a week, they imagined themselves flexing their wrists for five-second intervals. Since their arms were in a cast from elbow to finger, they never actually moved their wrists. Instead, here’s what they did. Five days a week, in five-second intervals, they diligently and consistently imagined they were moving their wrists. After four weeks of these mental-imagery exercises, the casts were removed. Both groups had lost strength, but the group that did the mental imagery lost only 25% of their strength while the group that did no mental-imagery exercises lost 45% strength. According to researchers, there is power in activating the part of the brain that would perform the actual task.
Your mind is so powerful that just imagining that you are doing something that strengthens you can psychically strengthen you. Imagine what this means in your everyday life. What are the most common mental-imagery exercises you rehearse? Do you imagine you at your best daily? Do you see yourself happy, successful, and at peace? Do you see yourself living your vision in your mind’s eye?
This week, I challenge you to use the power of mental imagery to strengthen your resolve to boldly and fully move towards the life that’s possible for you. It is simple:
1. Identify a specific scenario in which you want to see yourself in the future. Ask, what am I doing? Who am I with? Where am I precisely? When will it occur? Paint a vivid picture for your mind.
2. Get quiet. Breathe. Relax.
3. Imagine yourself in the vision as if it is the present moment. How do you feel? What do you see, taste, touch? Stay there for at least 60 seconds.
Make mental imagery a daily habit. Start for the next seven days, by carving out just two minutes a day to imagine yourself living fully in your divinely-inspired vision. When you see it, you’ll believe it. What you believe is possible, you move towards.
My challenge to you this week:
Imagine yourself in your vision. Every day this week.
What is the specific scenario that feels distant, but also feels true for you? Paint a vivid picture of yourself living in this vision. Then go there and visit that reality in your mind. Feel it. Taste it. Touch it. Breathe it. Hear it. Leave your comments below; I’d love to hear from you!
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If you are on my Facebook fan page or Instagram, you may have seen the recent wedding photos I posted on the day Jeff and I celebrated our first anniversary. The night before, when Jeff came home from flying, he casually asked me, “What’s your favorite restaurant in the whole country?” That was easy. There’s a restaurant I love that’s only located in pretty places. When I was a kid growing up in Colorado, my parents would go to the one in Golden. When I lived in DC, I’d go to the one on the Potomac in Alexandria. And when I lived in Annapolis, I could walk to the restaurant right on the Chesapeake Bay from my house. But my favorite one of all was in Monterey, California, where I lived during my sophomore year of college. I thought we were just having casual conversation, but my hubby was on a mission. “Well, alright,” he said next. “That’s where I’m taking you for our anniversary dinner tomorrow!”
My eyes stretched wide. “Really?” I asked rhetorically and happily. “I would love that.” I haven’t been to Monterey since 1993, but sure enough, we hopped on a plane the next morning – landing two standby seats to San Francisco, and spent the next day and a half in California. We had dinner on the famous Cannery Row overlooking Monterey Bay, cruised down the spectacular 17-Mile Drive in Pebble Beach, and browsed through the shops in quaint Carmel. And despite the 50-something degree weather, we even took off our shoes, admired the plentiful sea anemones and mussels along the rocky shore, and played on the beach.
I feel led to challenge you this week to be spontaneous. Happiness is something we create and live every single day. It is a choice. You’ve got to “own your happy.” It doesn’t get handed to you. It isn’t something you go find. It is already here, right now, waiting for you to act. And sometimes, taking action means shaking things up. Maybe it’s not a trip across the country, but something new or fun in your everyday routine. That thing you’ve been talking about doing? That person you’ve been talking about calling and hanging out with? The get-together you said you were going to throw last year? DO it.
I have declared this year that there are a few things I’ve been talking about doing, dreaming about doing, for an awfully long time – both professionally and personally. And now is the time. My husband is a commercial airline captain and we have said for the last year we need to put our flight privileges to better use. Well, this last-minute adventure to magnificent Monterey was a fun start. My birthday was last week, so I we let another adventure unfold. Sometimes action comes when you get sick of talking about you what you are going to do that you finally just up and do it – spontaneously. So … write the book. Embrace that new opportunity. Throw the party. Take the class. No explanation needed. No more contemplation – you’ve done enough of that. Just GO!
My challenge to you this week:
LIVE fully. Be spontaneous.
What would it look like to shake things up THIS WEEK? Will you do it/ When? I’d love to hear about it. Post and share your spontaneity this week below!
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