What’s Your Purpose?

Why are you here? I don’t mean why are you here reading these words right now. Instead, why are you here on this planet at this time, born into the family you were born into, with your unique gifts and talents, with your experiences? There is indeed a reason you are here. It’s your purpose. Some call it your mission. We all have one. Our job is to discover what it is and live it.

I recall winning honors and awards in my previous career field, yet feeling a deep dissatisfaction with my work. Because I was good at my profession, the people around me assumed I was happy and purposeful. But deep down, I knew something was off. Life can have all the external accolades of success, but if there is no purpose to what you are accomplishing, you’ll feel a black hole – an empty place in your soul that wants true fulfillment. That true fulfillment comes from knowing you are living on purpose.

One day, while coaching a client who was struggling to articulate her life’s mission, a question just rolled off my tongue: How is someone’s life better when they cross your path? She immediately began describing her mission, “Well, I am a bridge builder who connects people, ideas and resources, so a person’s life is better because I help them make the right connection.” Just like that. Crystal clear. She articulated her purpose. Over the years, this powerful question has helped many people get crystal clear about their purpose in life
Without a lot of introspection and pondering, answer this question from your gut: How is someone’s life better when they cross your path?

We are all here for a reason – leaving the world in some way better than it would otherwise have been without us. The fun part is that we get to accomplish that mission using our own uniqueness – our gifts, strengths, passion and experiences. While you are likely not the only person in the world with your particular mission, you are the only one who can accomplish it the way you can. There are people you are uniquely equipped to impact. They connect with you. They are around you. They are impacted by you. Who will you connect and live out your purpose with today?

I challenge you to take a moment and answer this question with one simple sentence: How is someone’s life better because they cross your path? If you have trouble answering it, chat with the people in your life who know you best. Sometimes your impact comes so easily to you that it’s difficult for you to recognize it. But the people whom you are impacting will know. Ask them.

Challenge:

Write your personal mission statement.

Journaling assignment:

How is someone’s life better because they cross your path? Leave your comments below. I’d love to hear from you!

Forget Perfection!

Do you insist that everything be done a certain way? Do you have a hard time relaxing if your house is a mess or things are out of order? Do you beat yourself up for making mistakes? I’ve got a simple message for you today: It’s time to let go of your perfectionism. It may just be the stumbling block that’s keeping you from contentment and the happiness you say you want.

The quest for a perfect job, a perfect mate, a perfect life – is a never ending quest that none of us will ever achieve. It is a futile habit that keeps you from relaxing and enjoying life – and appreciating the lessons, opportunities and blessings that are right in front of you. So what can you do to tame your perfectionism?

1. Be willing to leave some things undone.
Recognize that the world won’t come to an end because there are dishes in the sink, or you didn’t plan the perfect vacation.

2. Recognize that it’s often the imperfections of a situation that foster growth, laughter and even lasting memories.
Tune in to the divine wisdom being offered to you everyday through the frustrations, inconveniences and struggles of life.

3. Let the people in your life be who they are.
One of life’s greatest frustrations can come from expecting others to meet our expectations when they simply cannot or will not do so. Stop requiring others to meet your expectations of perfection, and your relationships will be more peaceful and joyful.

4. Give yourself a break.
We are all imperfect. Even if you are excellent, thoughtful, careful and intelligent, you will do things wrong at times, make mistakes and get yourself into situations you wish you could reverse. Learn from them and move forward.

As you let go of your need for perfection, you embrace the perfect ways in which life often lines up just the way you need it, just when you need it.

Journaling assignment:
In what ways are you demanding perfection? How could you ease up and allow yourself to enjoy life more? Consider your relationships, finances, work, health and spiritual life.

My challenge to you this week:
Give yourself a break. Let go of the quest for perfection and notice the opportunities for joy that show up on your path this week. Leave your comments below. I’d love to hear from you!

Finish Each Day and Be Done with It!

Do you have a hard time leaving work at work? Is your to-do list so long that it is never possible to finish everything you set out to do in a day? I have always loved this quote from Ralph Waldo Emerson:

“Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities have crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; you shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.”

The quote serves as a reminder of the importance of putting boundaries around our time and expectations of each new day. This week, I would like to simply remind you to “finish each day and be done with it.” Forgive yourself for not accomplishing everything you “could” have. Relax and be at peace with simply doing what you were able. Give yourself permission to make a few mistakes, be imperfect and inadvertently get off track from time to time. After all, you are human. One of my friends – a successful executive and single mom of three – told me a few years ago that she had learned that “being superwoman is a super myth.” She was right on point. You can get into the habit of taking on too much responsibility and then expecting yourself to handle every responsibility perfectly and expediently. Before long, you can become exhausted and even burn out.

Here are a few ways to practice “finishing each day and being done with it” this week:

LEAVE YOUR WORK AT WORK.
If you work from home, do the same. When your work day ends, mentally shift from professional life mode to personal life mode.

LET YOUR TO-DO’S SPILL OVER INTO THE NEXT DAY.
Often, to-do lists are quite unrealistic. Be honest with yourself about what you can actually accomplish in a day. If something doesn’t get completed, move it to another day. Put your to-dos into proper perspective. Sometimes we stress out over tasks that are not urgent matters.

EVERY CONFLICT DOES NOT HAVE TO BE RESOLVED TODAY.
If you’ve had a tough day with co-workers, your children, a spouse or a friend, don’t feel pressured to always resolve the issue the same day. I’m not suggesting that you should avoid difficult conversations, but rather that it is important to identify the right time and place to have them. Sometimes, waiting a day or two can allow heated emotions to simmer, and a more productive conversation to occur.

CLEAR YOUR MIND TO FOCUS ON THE PRESENT.
When you find yourself focused on all that you did not accomplish during the day, take a deep breath and make a decision to focus on your goal again tomorrow. Refuse to beat yourself up over moments that have passed earlier in your day that you will never get back. Instead, maximize the moment you are in right now by enjoying it fully. For it, too, will never be regained.

END YOUR DAY ON PURPOSE.
Do you sometimes fall asleep on the sofa? Do you drift off to sleep vowing to read one more chapter in a book only to wake up with the lights on and an open book on your pillow? Studies show that most people have a more restful night’s sleep when they have a bedtime routine consisting of dimmed lights and low or no noise in the hour before going to sleep – followed by turning off the lights and resting until drifting off to sleep. End your day intentionally and you will find yourself energized to begin your next day!

Journaling assignment:
What tends to burden you at the end of each day? What will you do differently beginning today to let it go until a new day begins?

My challenge to you this week:
Finish each day this week and be done with it!

Leave your comments below; I’d love to hear from you!

If You Knew The Answer, What Would It Be?

I know you’ve been pondering the answer to your greatest challenge. You’ve been trying to figure it all out – coming up with various scenarios, seeking outside opinions and generally racking your brain to get the right answer. But my question is a simple one:

If you knew the answer, what would it be?

Pause. Take a deep breath. And before you read any further (I’m talking to you, the overachieving perfectionist who wants to keep reading because you are sure that I’m about to give you the answer, and you don’t want to waste any time getting to it!), answer this profound, counterintuitive question. If you knew the answer, what would it be?

The bottom line is this: you have an inkling. Perhaps your answer leads to more questions. But that’s not necessarily a bad thing because at least now you are on the right path. In my many years of coaching, it never ceases to amaze me that this question always evokes a powerful answer for clients. I think it’s all in how I ask the question. I ask it in a very unassuming way – light and with a confidence in my voice that communicates I am sure my client will be able to answer the question easily. One client, pondering a major career transition and major long-distance move, was wrought with anxiety about making the right choice. She listed all the cons, what might go wrong, what making the wrong decision might cost her. But when I said casually, “So, if you knew the answer, what would it be?”, she said without hesitation, “I’d take the job. I’d take the risk. I mean, an opportunity like this doesn’t come around often. I could make sure I plan to visit my friends and family regularly. If I make the wrong decision, I’ll just have to make new plans.” Just like that, she had her answer. She already knew. Her internal compass pointed her in the right direction. It was her fear that rationalized her out of the right answer even before she could acknowledge what she really wanted to do.

How about you? What’s the question you need an answer to? Are you willing to give voice to your gut instincts? Even if you are not ready to move forward on your answer yet, at least respect your own nudges enough to acknowledge them. You might be surprised that the answer you’ve been searching for is already here.

My challenge to you:
Pay attention to your inklings.

Coach Yourself:
If you knew the answer, what would it be? Leave your comments below; I’d love to hear from you!

Is it Time to Change Your Approach?

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” – The Serenity Prayer

A woman told me recently, “If I could just get my husband to stop leaving the towels on the floor after he takes a shower … and if I could just get him to stop letting my three-year old leave his towels on the floor, I would feel like he was contributing more to keeping the house clean.”

“How long has your husband been doing this?” I asked. “Well, since we’ve been married,” she admitted. “That’s seven years.” “Hmm. And you’ve asked him to put his towels away?” I probed.  “Every day!” she exclaimed. “He’ll do it for a couple of days and then it’s right back to the same problem. He’s a great husband in so many ways, but this issue with the towels drives me crazy. It would be so easy for him to just pick them up and put them in the laundry basket!”  I could sense her frustration. “So you’ve tried to get him to change and he hasn’t. What’s the likelihood that he’s going to stop this annoying habit?” I asked.  “He probably won’t” she said.  I looked at her as she processed what she had said. “He’s probably not going to change and this is not life or death, so maybe I need to change how I look at it” she continued. “So basically, you have three choices…” I suggested:

1. Accept the towels on the floor as something you choose to live with.
2. Consider ‘putting away towels’ to just be one of your daily chores.
3. Be irritated everyday.

“Which one sounds best to you?” I asked.

It was in that moment that a light bulb came on for her. “Well, it would only take me a few seconds to just pick up the towels and put them in the laundry basket,” she said. “I’ll just do it. I don’t think it’s worth any more fussing and negative energy. I will just think of it as one of the things I do.”  Our conversation was a simple illustration of how you can allow the things you cannot change to become a source of unnecessary frustration – sometimes for years. As you may have learned in your own life, you cannot change people. If you base your peace and level of happiness on the attitudes and actions of others, you will find yourself consistently disappointed. I am not suggesting that you stop speaking up for yourself and making reasonable requests of others. I am suggesting, however, that you don’t become so attached to your need for them to change that you stress yourself out unnecessarily.
This week, I challenge you to have the courage to accept the things (no matter how large or small) you cannot change and the courage to change what you can. Here’s how:

1. Accept the people in your life as they are.
As difficult as it may be at times, it is absolutely essential in a loving relationship to accept a person for who he or she is. Think back to a time when you did not feel accepted. How did it make you feel? Accepting a person for who they are does not mean condoning bad behavior. It means accepting what is and building from there rather than requiring a person to change in order for them to receive love, kindness or approval from you.

2. Ask yourself, “In what ways could I respond differently in relationships in which I wish the other person would change?”
Some people know how to push your buttons – and they’ll do it as often as they can in order to get the reaction they want from you. Others are not trying to push buttons, but inevitably do, as they do things that displease you. Change the dynamic of a situation by choosing a new response. In the case of the conversation I just outlined, the woman simply determined that something as simple as towels on the floor was not worth the frustration and negativity. So she let it go! “He’s probably not going to change. It’s just not important to him, so I guess I will have to be the one to change unless I want to keep feeling frustrated.” Choose your battles wisely. What do you need to let go of?

3. Are there boundaries I need to set in order to protect my own peace, joy and serenity?
It is sometimes necessary to set clear boundaries and protect them. For example, I don’t permit “drama” in my life. I do not allow people and situations that are negative, messy or lacking in integrity into my life. I just don’t have time for them. When I see such situations or people coming, I make it clear that certain conversations, situations and approaches are not acceptable to me and I won’t take part. What boundaries do you need to set to keep peace, joy and serenity in your life? What conversations do you need to have to make those boundaries clear to someone who has stepped across them?

4. Have I met the other persons’ request for change?
It can be easy to expect change in others without noticing that others would like to see a change in us as well. Be willing to take others’ requests for change seriously. Rather than being offended (1 Corinthians 13 tells us that love is not easily offended), be honest with yourself. Perhaps it is time to make a change. When you are willing to change for someone else, they will often let down their wall and meet your requests too. If you are the one who must take the first step, do it. Sometimes we must let go of the need to be right in order to embrace the opportunity for peace, joy and love.

My challenge to you this week:
Answer all of the questions in 1 – 4 above. Consider the choices you have in handling a situation that is currently frustrating you. Make a choice that will lead you to greater peace, joy and serenity in a relationship or situation in your life.

Journaling assignment:
What lesson is God offering you through the frustration or discomfort you are experiencing in a particular area of your life right now?

Leave your comments below; I’d love to hear from you!

Are You At Peace About It?

It’s a simple question, but too often, in the face of a decision, we don’t ask it. Sure, logic is an important element of making a decision, but so too is intuition. Rather than ignore it or consider it secondary information, honor it. Peace is like an inner GPS system that leads you in the right direction. Even when the system looks like it’s taking you on a detour, it is often offering you a shortcut – saving you the time and energy of landing in a traffic jam of confusion, bad decisions or worse. Even in the most tumultuous situations, God can give you peace about a particular decision you need to make in the midst of the storm. You’ll feel calm even though everything around you is falling to pieces.

If you are honest, there have likely been times when you have felt compelled to move forward with something even when peace is lacking. Why is that? The reasons are probably rooted in fear – fear that somehow if you don’t make a decision now, you won’t get what you want later. It is the fear that you need to be in control and that means being able to see all the pieces of the puzzle. The ones you can’t see, you don’t trust. And you can’t “see” intuition – not in the natural, anyway. It is fear that maybe your intuition is wrong. “You don’t really have the ability to hear from God himself?” your doubt says. “Don’t be silly.” So rather than confidently going with your gut, you forge ahead with that gnawing feeling that something’s not quite right. Proverbs 22:3 promises, “A prudent man sees danger and takes refuge, but the simple keep going and suffer for it.” Here are a few other ways fear shows up when it’s time to make a decision:

Impatience

Have you ever made a decision out of impatience? You’re tired of waiting, so you move forward. Whether a simple everyday decision or a monumental one, such as who to marry or what career to choose, be patient. And choose peace while you are practicing patience. True patience isn’t about whether you wait, it’s about how you wait.

Trust

Lack of trust in God’s hand in your life shows up when you make decisions that are not rooted in peace. Trust Him. If you really trust Him, impatience won’t outweigh peace.

Reasoning

Some of us get very caught up in trying to figure things out. Proverbs 3:5 says, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not to your own understanding.” In other words, stop trying to predict, reason and rationalize your way into the right decisions!

I don’t know what the most important decision is that you need to make right now, but I know for sure that going in the direction of peace is a demonstration of authentic confidence and spiritual wisdom. So today, I wonder if it’s time for you to slow down a bit. Get quiet. Breathe deeply. Listen. And ask, “In this decision I am making, what choice gives me peace?”

My challenge to you:

Use peace to guide you.

Coach Yourself:  

In a decision you need to make right now, are you at peace about your decision? What decision would give you peace? Leave your comments below, I’d love to hear from you!

What Would it Look Like to Accept ‘What Is’?

 

We can spend so much of our energy pushing uphill against what is. You may wonder, “What is ‘what is’?” What is, is reality. It is the inevitable; it is the situation that you wish were not in existence. It is the fact that: You would prefer it if someone else was your boss … you wish that bad habit your spouse has would go away … your career that is off track. It is the divorce you didn’t want, the health challenge that burdens you, and the life that hasn’t turned out quite the way you planned it.

When you resist “what is,” you live in a state of denial. You focus your energy trying to control what is beyond your control. You spend countless days and hours focused on why it shouldn’t be this way. Frustration takes over. Anger prevails. You may even hide reality to avoid facing it. Rather than letting people in on your disappointment, you keep it entirely to yourself. You may even set out to prove that “what is” really isn’t. Rather than coming up with a plan to get your career back on track, you pretend to the world everything is fine. Instead of making the most of the life you have left, you spend most of your energy lamenting the fact that things are not where you believe they should be. Instead of accepting a loved one right where he is, you spend your energy trying to make him change.

What if you stopped pushing against the inevitable and trust your ability to handle reality? What would you do differently then? When you make that shift, it feels like releasing a heavy burden from your shoulders. It feels authentic. And let me be clear: It feels scary at first, but if you embrace reality – finally, truly embrace where you are right now – you can relax and begin to find the courage to confront your greatest fears. You can finally move forward. You can live authentically – not in denial or fear, but in acceptance and faith and love.

My challenge to you:
Embrace what is.

Coach yourself:
What is your “what is” right now? What reality do you resist? What would it look like to accept what is? Leave your comments below, I’d love to hear from you!

Is It Time for a Little self Discipline?

“… the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience , kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control [self-discipline].”

- Galatians 5:22

I recall writing prayerfully in my journal one morning a few years ago about how to get unstuck from a rut. I felt I had reached a plateau. I wanted a bit of divine inspiration that would propel me forward. I prayed, then listened for God to say something like, “Valorie, don’t worry. You’re doing all the right things. Just be patient.” Sure that I was indeed doing “all the right things,” what other message could there possibly be for me? I listened for an answer, and the one I got was not what I wanted to hear. It was one simple word that kept coming to me over and over: Discipline.

“Discipline?” I thought. Sometimes I forget that God has a sense of humor – even when we’re not looking for a laugh.:) Although discipline wasn’t the word I wanted to hear, it was certainly the one I needed to hear. The message was simple: “Valorie, if you’re going to go to the next level, you need more self-discipline.” Immediately, I pictured less freedom. More work – hard work. “Discipline” isn’t a sexy topic. It does not sound fun or exciting, but being disciplined is a key that unlocks potential, prosperity and freedom.

We can sometimes buy into the notion that following our passion is supposed to be fun and exciting, but living purposefully is also a journey of character-building and evolving into the person you always knew you could be. The process is not always fun, but it does bring us rich rewards. I took an honest look at my life. It wasn’t bad, but “not bad” was not the goal. Admittedly, my schedule was a bit unruly. I managed to get a lot done, but with very little structure in my life, I was feeling scattered and ineffective. While I was not excited about embracing more discipline, I knew a change was needed. What I discovered in the process is that discipline is not about taking things away, but about giving you what you truly want.

This week, I challenge you to take an honest look at an area of your life where you know you are not living up to your potential. Consider the five key areas of your life: Relationships, Health, Work, Finances and Spiritual Life. Perhaps you need to exercise discipline when it comes to eating junk food or watching television instead of going for a brisk walk. Perhaps you need to be more disciplined by leaving the office on time so that you have more time for yourself, family and friends. Maybe the area where it’s time for more discipline is spending. It’s time to take control of your finances by increasing what you save each month, taking steps to increase what you make and decrease what you spend. You know the area of discipline that’s calling you. Your next step is to embrace the change, then enjoy the reward.

My challenge to you this week:
Make a decision to practice self-discipline. Remember that in order to have what you’ve never had in your life, you must be willing to do what you’ve never done.

Journaling Question:
In what area(s) of your life do you need to exercise more discipline? What specific, disciplined action are you willing to commit to for the next seven days? What permanent shift do you want to aim for? Leave your comments below, I’d love to hear from you!

Be Yourself – 4 Ways to Bring Out Your Best You!

“Be Yourself, Everyone Else is Taken”.  Oscar Wilde

In recent conversations, the theme “be you” came up several times.  And when themes emerge, I always like to seek the lesson for myself and eventually share it with you.  If you feel like sometimes you struggle with saying what you mean, doing what you love or relaxing around certain people, then this week’s topic is especially for you.  Yet even if you are confident and sure that you are comfortable being “you,” there is often room to go a little deeper – an opportunity to uncover another layer of authenticity and free yourself to unapologetically be you.

Not being at ease with yourself just as you are is exhausting.  You might not even realize the amount of energy is drained keeping up appearances, attempting to be perfect, pleasing other people and trying to make yourself fit in, in situations that simply are not you.  The notion of “being yourself” can feel a little vague, so this week, I have five practical strategies that will help you be yourself and maximize your best you:

1.   Say what you need to say.

Are you beating around the bush? Too afraid to speak up?  Have you found yourself telling a “little lie” to avoid embarrassment or telling the truth?  That’s a clear sign you are not being you.  Identify at least one situation in which you have not said what you need to say.  When you finish reading this, go to who you need to go to and just say it.  If you can’t say it now, then mark your calendar for the day and time when you will.  Authenticity means being forthright, so you don’t waste precious energy pretending all is well when it isn’t.

 

2.  Wear what makes you feel your best.

It may seem superficial, but it’s not.  Clothing is a language all its own.  What does yours say about you?  And is that message consistent with who you truly are.  When I transitioned from running a public relations firm that focused on corporate clients, to my current work in personal and spiritual growth, I changed my daily wardrobe.  Out with the suits (which I thought made me look more mature and credible since I was in my 20s then) and in with a more relaxed, fun look.  But truth be told, I could have been more relaxed and fun, yet professional back then.  Be creative to dress in a way that makes you feel good, even when your choices are restricted for professional reasons.

 

3.  Do what you know is right.   

There is nothing more authentic than living your values.  When your actions don’t line up with your beliefs, inner turmoil is sure to follow.  Do what’s right and you’ll have a sense of peace about your decisions and actions.

 

4.  Give yourself permission to be imperfect. 

Most of the time, when we are uncomfortable in our own skin, it is because we haven’t given ourselves permission to be human.  In other words:  permission to be imperfect.  When you relax, you enjoy yourself more.  When you value the journey as much, if not more, than the destination, you embrace the fact that there will be bumps along the road – but they don’t have to keep you from reaching your destination.

 

5.  Breathe.

Anytime you feel yourself getting anxious, feeling tempted to step away from just being you, take a deep breath.  Breathe and get centered again. It’s such a simple concept – just like being yourself.

 

My challenge to you this week:

Be yourself!

Journaling assignment:

When are you most likely to not be yourself?  What are you afraid will happen if you are the real you?  What do you do specifically that does not really represent who you really are?  When will you stop doing that?  Will you try today? Leave your comments below; I’d love to hear from you!

 

Ahhh…It’s Time to Relax!

In our stress-filled world, it can be easy to become uptight, irritable and just plain unpleasant. But why live that way when you can relax, enjoy life and accomplish more than those who spend their days in a frenzy? Here are five powerful ways to simply relax:


1. Forget perfection

Do you have a hard time relaxing if your house is a mess or things are out of order? One of the best ways to relax is to learn to let go of perfection. The quest for a perfect job, a perfect mate, a perfect life – is a never ending quest that keeps you from relaxing and enjoying life. So what can you do to tame your perfectionism? Be willing to leave some things undone, recognizing that the world won’t come to an end because there are dishes in the sink or your inbox still has work to be completed. Recognize that it’s often the imperfections of a situation that foster growth, laughter and even lasting memories. As you let go of your need for perfection, you embrace the perfect ways in which life lines up just the way we need it, just when we need it.  

 

2. Don’t fight every battle!

Do you sometimes feel as though you are constantly fighting battles? Whether at work, at home or with the rude ticket agent at the airport, make a decision not to fight every battle. There are points in our lives when it feels like the world is against us. It can be natural to put up your defenses and head into battle. But if you stay in that mode, you will find yourself fighting so many battles that you are worn out and continually frustrated. So how do you know which battles to fight?

 

Ask yourself one simple question:
WILL THE OUTCOME OF THIS BATTLE MATTER A YEAR FROM NOW?

 

If the answer is “no,” let the battle work itself out and save yourself the energy and stress.

 

3. Schedule time to do nothing

When is the last time you had absolutely nothing to do? If you’re like most people, you probably can’t remember! For that reason, I invite you to do something very simple for at least a few minutes a day: NOTHING. One of the best ways to decrease your stress level and enjoy the moments that are filled with the many things on your calendar, is to schedule free time just like any other important activity on your schedule. So … go sit on the sofa and daydream for 15 minutes … or stand in the backyard and breathe in some fresh air! You’ll find that doing nothing, can do you a whole lot of good.

 

4. Breathe!

Are you stressed lately? One of the best ways to tell if you are, is to notice how you are breathing. A basic skill for managing stress and improving your health is easy: breathing properly. Often, when we are stressed or intensely focused, we forget to take full breaths. Breathe deeply, feeling your stomach expand as you do, and then exhale – expelling as much air as possible before taking another breath. A few of these deep cleansing breaths, and you’ll find yourself relaxing much more easily.  

 

5. Take your sleep seriously

Do you hit the snooze button three times before you drag yourself out of bed? There’s probably no better relaxation than falling into a deep and comfortable sleep. Did you know that good sleep means less stress? Studies show that sleep deprivation (regularly getting less than 7-8 hours of sleep) is a major contributor to stress, so here’s what you can do to enhance your sleep habits:

-Make your bedroom a sanctuary … clear your clutter, use quality sheets and eliminate noise
-Avoid exercise or heavy meals before going to bed
-Allow your body to get used to going to bed and waking up at regular times
-Go to sleep deliberately rather than falling asleep accidentally every night while watching television or trying to read a book
-Remember, more sleep … less stress!

Leave your comments below, I’d love to hear from you!