2005 Rich Minds, Rich Rewards E-Newsletter
WEEK 7: Are you easy to love? 7 Keys to Love and Be Loved
February 13, 2005
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THIS WEEK'S TOPIC: Are you easy to love? 7 Keys to Love and Be Loved
bought a cute card for my three-year old goddaughter yesterday. Her
birthday falls on Valentine's Day and the card jokingly said, "People
born on Valentine's Day are easier to love." It got me thinking, "Some
people really are easier to love, aren't they?" Why is that? I think it
is because some people are better at loving others. Because they
express love in healthy ways on a consistent basis, they also attract
love into their lives. It is a simple principle most of us have been
taught repeatedly: What you sow, you will also reap.
week, I would like to serve as your loving reminder of what it means to
love someone. These are seven straightforward, at times difficult, but
always effective strategies for loving others - and experiencing more
love in your life. Saint Paul wrote them in the 13th chapter of his
first letter to the Corinthians. We often hear the scripture recited at
weddings. This week, meditate on these seven principles. Find news ways
to express love on a daily basis and strengthen your daily interaction
with others -- whether loved ones or strangers, co-workers or
neighbors. The greatest use of your life is to love. When you apply
this kind of love to a situation, it never fails:
1. LOVE IS PATIENT.
won't always do what you want when you want them to. Practice being
patient - whether with your children, your significant other or the
grocery cashier who takes too long to ring up your order. Everything
happens for a reason - and that includes the timing of when things
happen. Be patient and learn the lesson that comes in the process of
enduring the wait. Sometimes the lesson is simple: Slow down and enjoy
2. LOVE IS KIND.
Every single day, choose to be kind.
Ask yourself each morning, "How could I be a blessing to someone
today?" Whether it is a kind word, a loving gesture or helping someone
in need, seek ways to be kind daily. Not only will it be a blessing to
those you encounter, but it feels good to your soul.
3. LOVE DOES NOT ENVY.
will always be someone who appears to have "more" or to be doing
better. Make a decision not to be envious of others, but in every
circumstance of life to find a reason to be thankful. Jealousy poisons
your attitude, builds resentment and can ruin relationships. Rather
than envying others, learn from them. Even be inspired by them. And
simultaneously, choose to be content with what you have while you
journey towards something better.
4. LOVE DOES NOT BOAST AND IS NOT PROUD.
the temptation to boast about yourself, your accomplishments or your
loved ones. It often only makes others feel "less than," which of
course, is not an expression of love. Practice humility. Allow your
accomplishments to speak for themselves. Others often notice your good
work and deeds, even without you having to make a big deal of them. In
fact, it is far more attractive to simply "be" great than to try to
convince others of your greatness.
5. LOVE IS NOT RUDE OR EASILY ANGERED.
all had our moments when our behavior has been less than considerate.
Next time you feel the urge to be rude, inconsiderate or to jump to
conclusions, stop yourself. Take a deep breath and ask, "What would be
a more loving response to this situation?" That doesn't mean that you
allow others to walk all over you. You can speak the truth to people in
a very matter of fact way, without being rude. Be considerate of others
feelings and be willing to give people the benefit of the doubt.
6. LOVE KEEPS NO RECORD OF WRONGS.
you ever known someone who remembered every mistake you ever made or
everything you ever did wrong? As you have grown and become a better
person, all they can remember is the person you used to be. It is very
frustrating and you may even find yourself ready to distance yourself
from that person. Learn from the past behavior of others - and protect
yourself accordingly, when necessary - but resist the temptation to
continually bring up everything someone has done wrong. Love others by
encouraging them towards a better future, not defining them by their
7. LOVE REJOICES IN THE TRUTH.
So often, it seems we are
afraid of the truth. When something is wrong, we pretend everything is
OK. Often both parties will pretend even when both parties know there
is a problem. One of the most important love skills you can learn is to
be honest. Refuse to live lies or to accept lies as truth. Have
truthful conversations with yourself and others. It allows you to get
to the core of issues faster. It empowers others to trust you. It
relieves the stress of tiptoeing around the real issues. Learn to speak
the truth in a spirit of love and kindness, and your life will be
richer and more fulfilling.
My challenge to you this week:
a situation that is challenging or frustrating to you, find a way to
express love. Perhaps it's time to call a truce, forgive someone who
has done you wrong, tell the truth or be more patient. What could you
do to be more loving?
What makes the
person most important to you feel loved? What are three ways that you
could incorporate more of it into your interaction with this person?
Until next time ...
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