2005 Rich Minds, Rich Rewards E-Newsletter
WEEK 26: Why Not You? 5 Ways to Overcome Doubts
June 26, 2005
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THIS WEEK'S TOPIC:
Why Not You? 5 Ways to Overcome Doubts
week, I'd like to share a message I wrote to you a few months ago.
Please consider it a reminder of how to push past your doubts and live
Before I began writing books and speaking, I would
often study authors and speakers who were doing what I wanted to do
with my career. Their lives seemed somehow magical - like they knew
some special secrets that I didn't have access to. Of course, that
wasn't true. I had within me everything I needed to begin living the
purpose for which I was created. What many of them had was a strong
belief in their ability to live their dreams. They also had
believed in themselves and their potential for
success so much that they refused to give up when success didn't happen
in their timing. They believed it would come eventually - and it did. I
began asking myself, "Valorie, why not you? You could fulfill your
dream of inspiring others through your writing. Just begin doing it."
week, I want to encourage you to simply believe in your own
possibilities and stay the course as you pursue them! I am amazed at
how often we stand in awe of the accomplishments of others, as though
we cannot achieve similar things. If you find yourself doing this, I
encourage you to stop looking at what everyone else has accomplished
and begin appreciating your own talents, experiences, abilities and
potential. You can have the life you were meant to live and
successfully pursue the things that matter most to you, but first you
must believe that you can. This is a basic foundation for success.
of the most important elements of your personal foundation is simply
believing in yourself. You must expect success - and then take action
and persevere based upon those expectations. In my book Listen to Your
Life, I talk about cultivating an attitude of positive
If a video camera had recorded your life over the last week, what would
I say you were expecting? Would your actions indicate that you are
expecting success? Consider these five strategies to help you overcome
doubts and cultivate an attitude of positive expectancy:
1. EXPECT DOUBT AND OVERCOME IT WITH TRUTH.
you are pursuing important goals, doubts will surface. Expect them, but
do not allow them to govern your actions. Make a list of your most
persistent doubts and then counter them with the reasons that you can
overcome those doubts. For example, if you begin to doubt your ability
to be disciplined because in the past you have not stayed on track with
your goals, remind yourself that this is a new day and you are evolving
into a stronger and more disciplined person. Your past does not dictate
2. REMEMBER THAT WITH GOD, ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE.
you are living within God's will for your life and fulfilling your
unique purpose, you will experience "divine favor." Don't become overly
concerned when you cannot figure out how something will happen. Simply
continue taking steps forward in faith and God will meet you
at the point of your limitation.
3. FAILURES AND MISTAKES ARE LEARNING TOOLS.
and fears are often cultivated when we fail or make mistakes. We begin
to doubt our abilities. But failure today does not mean you will fail
again tomorrow - not if you learn the lesson in your failure. So
perhaps your relationship failed or you failed in school or at work. I
spent my entire first year of college on academic probation, yet
graduated in three years at the age of 20 and earned my master's degree
a year later at 21. My first-year failure was no indication of my
academic or professional future. In every experience, ask yourself,
"What did I learn from this experience that will empower me to succeed
the next time around?" Then keep on pushing forward!
4. TAKE ACTION EVERY DAY TOWARDS YOUR VISION.
weeks ago, I challenged you to identify your vision in the five key
areas of your life - relationships, finances, health, work and
spiritual life. When you take consistent action towards a vision that
is based on your life purpose, you begin to see opportunities flow into
your path. Doubt can cause a vicious cycle in which you are paralyzed
by fear and as a result, never take action. When you don't take action,
you also don't attract opportunities into your path. Thus, you
reinforce your own doubts. Take consistent action and you will break
the cycle of fear and doubt that can keep you stuck.
5. TALK TO YOURSELF.
that's right. Talk to yourself! Proverbs 18:21 tells us, "Life and
death is in the power of the tongue." Sometimes you simply have to
practice positive self-talk. When you are feeling doubtful, tell
yourself, "I CAN do this." "It's possible." "I have what it takes."
Speak positively about yourself and your circumstances, and you will
discover new strength to move forward in positive ways. Sometimes you
can't wait for others to encourage you. You have to encourage
My challenge to you this week:
in your own possibilities. Today, make a list of your most persistent
doubts and then make another list of positive truths that will help you
overcome those doubts.
In what ways
have you allowed negative experiences, mistakes or failures from your
past to dictate your possibilities for the future? Make a decision this
week to learn from your past, but not to be
limited by it.
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Burton, a life coach and speaker, is the author of Listen to Your Life,
Rich Minds, Rich Rewards and her latest, What's Really Holding You
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