2005 Rich Minds, Rich Rewards E-Newsletter
WEEK 38: Are you making wise decisions?
September 19, 2005
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THIS WEEK'S TOPIC:
Are you making wise decisions?
"Be very careful, then, how you live -- not as unwise, but as wise, making the most of every opportunity ... " -- Ephesians 5:15
the summer of 1993, just as I was about to graduate from Florida State
University, I made a decision that turned out to a very wise one. Until
about a year before I finished college, I was sure I wanted to be an
international corporate attorney. I made that decision in the 10th
grade based on fairly limited information. My major was International
Affairs, I grew up learning to speak German and Spanish, and law seemed
a logical choice. But as I began to learn more about my planned career
path, it just didn't appeal to me as the best fit for my interests. So
I decided to apply to a new graduate program in journalism at Florida A
& M University, just a mile away from FSU. I was unsure of exactly
what I wanted to do with a master's degree in journalism, but I was
excited by the possibilities. The month before I was to begin the
program, I began to waver. "Maybe an MBA would be better," I thought.
"I'll move back home to Denver and pursue that." I was 20 years old. It
was a major life decision and I was unsure of how to make it. I was
packed and preparing to move when a letter arrived from Florida A &
M University's journalism school. They offered a full tuition
scholarship and a graduate assistantship. I stood in the living room of
my one-bedroom apartment filled with boxes packed and ready to ship to
Colorado. "What should I do?" I wondered. Something in my spirit said,
"Unpack and stay. It's not time to leave Tallahassee yet." I listened.
It was a great decision.
I believe it was divine intervention
steering me onto my unique path. And as I look back on my decision, I
realize that I had no idea just how that particular course of study
would impact my career. From my work as a marketing director to running
my own public relations firm, to writing books and columns, and serving
as a host in radio and television, God clearly knew what kind of
training would be best for the professional vision He had in store for
me. And I am thankful that I listened.
Sometimes the decisions we
make seem obvious, while at other times, our decisions can feel
difficult and confusing. This week, I feel led to share 12 questions to
help you make solid, deliberate decisions - whether big or small - in
your career, relationships, finances and health. Too often, it seems,
we can get into the habit of making emotional or hasty decisions. But
the wisest decisions are Spirit-led and thoughtfully considered. What I
want for you is to make deliberate decisions that enrich the quality of
Creating the life you want is really about the choices
you make. In essence, if you can manage your decisions well, you will
prosper professionally, personally, financially and emotionally.
Consider a decision you have been pondering and ask yourself these
1. IS NOW THE TIME TO MAKE THIS DECISION?
is key when it comes to good decisions. You must be willing to move
when it's time to move and be patient when it is time to be still. Have
the courage to wait for divine timing. Don't force a decision. Allow it
to flow naturally. Clearly, some decisions must be made quickly, but
don't be hasty. You can still gather facts, consider your alternatives,
pray and make a wise decision.
2. WHAT IS THE PURPOSE OF THIS DECISION?
you are doing something is the fuel that drives your decision. Make
sure you are making decisions out of pure motives and be clear about
why the decision needs to be made and what objective will be met by
3. WHAT INFORMATION DO I NEED TO MAKE THE DECISION?
of the main causes of poor decision-making is a lack of information. Do
not make a decision before you have all of the information you need to
make a wise, informed decision. Take the time to learn and gather
4. WHAT ARE MY ALTERNATIVES? WHICH ONE IS EASIEST? WHICH ONE IS BEST?
you are ready to move forward, it can be tempting to zero in on one
option without considering all of your options. Always ask yourself,
"What options haven't I considered?" Also keep in mind that there are
times when the easiest decision is the best decision. At other times,
the best decision is the one that requires the most effort or patience.
5. WHAT WILL EACH ALTERNATIVE COST ME?
all of your options and compare them. Know what the cost will be to you
- not just in terms of money, but time, energy, relationships, space
and other resources.
6. WHAT OTHER FACTORS ARE INFLUENCING MY DECISION?
honest and recognize what factors are influencing your decision. Are
you making a decision because it will boost your ego or impress others?
Are you in a particular career because others have pressured you? Some
influences positively impact your decisions, while others move you away
from the core of who you truly are.
7. WHAT DO I FEEL IN MY SPIRIT IS THE RIGHT DECISION FOR ME?
are not alone in your decision making. Pray and listen for divine
guidance. Then muster up the faith and courage to follow it.
8. WHO IS THE RIGHT PERSON TO ASSIST ME IN MY DECISION?
the multitude of counsel, there is safety," Proverbs 15:22 tells us.
When a decision calls for it, reach out to those who have the
experience and background to help you make a wise decision. Be discreet
and wise about who you choose to trust with helping you in making a
decision. Only share with those who are objective, trustworthy and have
your best interests at heart.
9. DOES THIS DECISION MOVE ME CLOSER TO MY VISION OR FURTHER FROM IT?
your daily decisions are aligned with your vision, you create the life
you truly want. In every decision, consider your vision and make sure
your decisions further it.
10. IS THE DECISION ALIGNED WITH MY VALUES?
Listen to Your Life, I list many values and ask you to identify yours.
For example, the five values that are nearest to my heart are freedom,
creativity, truth, beauty and connection. Know what is important to you
and make sure your decisions reflect those values.
11. WHAT WOULD BE THE IDEAL SCENARIO? WHAT WOULD IT TAKE TO BRING MY IDEAL SCENARIO TO LIFE?
is often tempting to make decisions that cause you to "settle" for
something less than God has in store. Be clear about your ideal
scenario for any given situation and reflect on whether the decision
you make will bring that ideal scenario to life. If not, perhaps it is
time to consider an alternative or wait until a better opportunity
12. IS THIS DECISION PLEASING TO GOD?
a wise a decision is a Godly decision. If your decision is aligned with
the Word of God and God's will for your life, you can be assured it is
a wise one. So be honest with yourself and don't let your emotions take
over your decisions. Do what you know in your spirit is right.
My challenge to you this week:
a choice to start being deliberate about the decisions you make.
Identify a key decision that you need to make and use this process to
help you make your decision.
the decision(s) you need to make in your life right now. Journal
through that decision with the questions in this week's newsletter.
Until next time ...
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