"Transition time and a big thank you," the subject line of my colleague's email read.  I felt a tinge of sadness.  I didn't have to open it to know what it was going to say.  Yet another person in my circle of friends and colleagues was letting me know she had been laid off.  She was the third person this week - two have lost jobs and a third called me anxious about the possibility.
 
Sooner or later, we all face circumstances that force change.  The initial reaction is often one of anxiety and worry, but beneath the surface lies the sneaking suspicion that change - even one that we wouldn't have wished for - can be an opportunity for something new and good.  One truth about life is that you should expect the unexpected.  Don't fight it.  Instead, embrace the opportunity for a fresh start.
 
In what area of your life are you being forced to change?  Whether you're faced with a lay off or a health problem, a relationship crisis or an unexpected circumstance, coach yourself by asking questions that put you in a positive, proactive state of mind.
 
1.      What does this change give me an opportunity to do that I couldn't do before?
Assuming life was not perfect before change was thrust upon you, you have a chance now to create what you really want.  Rather than looking back, face forward.  This could be a turning point for you, perhaps a major one.  Maybe it's time for a move, a career change, some much-needed rest, or the formation of new habits.  Use this time to intentionally design your future.
                                                                                                           
2.      When I look back five years from now, what will I wish I had done during this transition time?
Make deliberate, authentic choices you won't come to regret.  Let go of excuses.  Face your fears.  Be bold and courageous.  While you may not have wished for this change, it presents a unique opportunity you may not get again.  Take advantage of it.
 
3.      Who can I count on for support, brainstorming and help moving forward?
The support of friends, colleagues and family makes your journey easier and more meaningful.  Don't isolate yourself.  Create your own "personal team" of supporters, coaches and accountability partners.  Talk to others.  Tell them your fears and hopes for the future.  Share your goals - research confirms you'll be more likely to achieve them if you commit to them publicly.
 
The initial shock of an unexpected change can tempt you to wallow in self-pity.  Don't do it.  It's fine to give yourself time to process what happened, but quickly make a decision to be proactive.  Accept the things you cannot change, and set out to the change the things you can.

Until next time ...

Warm wishes,


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Valorie Burton, a life coach and speaker, is the author of Listen to Your Life, Rich Minds, Rich Rewards, What's Really Holding You Back?, Why Not You? and her latest, How Did I Get So Busy? The 28-Day Plan to Free Your Time, Reclaim Your Schedule and Reconnect with What Matters Most. Subscribe to her FREE, inspirational e-newsletter at www.valorieburton.com.

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