"If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you."
- James 1:5

Dear Friend,

 

My mother loves to tell the story that when I was two years old, I taught myself how to tie my shoes. I'd asked her several times to teach me. Although she said she'd teach me "when I got bigger," I insisted that she show me how to do it. She did. One afternoon for 45 minutes, she patiently demonstrated shoe-tying step by step as I diligently attempted to follow her instructions. But I couldn't get it, and I became very frustrated. "Baby, you're too young," she said in a comforting, motherly tone. "We'll try again when you get a little older," she promised, leaving me in my bedroom to play while she went to cook dinner. Apparently I didn't do much playing, she recalls. To her utter surprise, I emerged from my room an hour later - shoes perfectly tied. When she asked how I did it, I replied in my then-southern drawl, "I jes figgiditout!" (Translation: "I just figured it out." :)).

 

Throughout my childhood, it became a phrase I'd use whenever I figured something out on my own. But as I entered adulthood and began to grow spiritually, I noticed that figuring things out doesn't always happen just because you determine to do it. Not everything in life is as simple as "just figuring it out." Of course, there are definitely times in life when your determination to do something is essential. Perseverance is the key to your success when you set out to live a purposeful life. However, there are some things in life that we can waste our energy trying to figure out. It is in those situations that we must be willing to let go, pray for wisdom, and trust God.

 

This week, I challenge you to identify the things in your life that you have been fruitlessly trying to figure out. Here are a few of the most common:

 

- When will "the one" come into your life so you can get married
- Why something happened that you wish had not happened
- When you are trying to figure out and fix someone else's problem
- When will a long-awaited door open in your life
- Why some people are blessed in certain ways that others are not
- When it's taking longer than you thought to see your dream come true
 

In what area of your life do you find yourself frustrated and trying to figure out something that perhaps is not meant to be figured out? Doing so consistently can lead you to be stuck, angry or aggravated with God. "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not unto your own understanding," Proverbs 3:5 says. Sometimes our knowledge is too limited to figure out why things happen (or don't happen) the way they do. God sees the big picture. Our job is to trust completely. Accept "what is" while continually learning and growing spiritually.

 

When you don't know what to do or how to deal with certain situations, ask for wisdom. Stop trying to figure it out. Let go of the need to control when and how things will happen. Take a deep breath. Pray for wisdom. Then slow down and quiet down enough to hear that still, small voice whisper words of comfort, peace and wisdom into your spirit.

 

My challenge to you this week:
Identify what you need to stop trying to figure out. Let it go. Pray and listen for wisdom about how to proceed from here.

 

Journaling assignment:
In what current life situations do you need to let go of control and trust God more? When will you begin to do that?

Until next time ...

Warm wishes,


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Valorie Burton, a life coach and speaker, is the author of Listen to Your Life, Rich Minds, Rich Rewards, What's Really Holding You Back?, Why Not You? and her latest, How Did I Get So Busy? The 28-Day Plan to Free Your Time, Reclaim Your Schedule and Reconnect with What Matters Most. Subscribe to her FREE, inspirational e-newsletter at www.valorieburton.com.

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