Research shows that the number of people the average American calls a "close friend" or "confidant" has decreased by 50% since 1986.  There are many reasons, but one may be mobility.  For various reasons, we move around more and find ourselves starting over more than ever.  In your twenties, a time when fewer people are settled down with families, it can be easier to find time for and make new friends.  But after 30, many find it increasingly hard to meet new friends.  If that's you, use these five strategies to establish and build meaningful friendships:
 
1.      Reach out to old friends.
If you've recently moved to a new city, do you know someone who lives there now? Do you have friends who used to live there and can make introductions?  Use your existing connections to make new connections.  And if you're in the same old city, don't hesitate to reach out to old friends you've lost touch with if your values and interests are aligned.
 
2.      Get involved in an activity you love.
Notice, I said "an activity you love." That's because meaningful friendships are often built - or at least started - based on a common interest.  Whether it's a shared alma mater, a sport you love or a charity you volunteer with, you'll find like-minded people in places where you love to be.  Likewise, if you spend time doing stuff you don't enjoy, you can sabotage your efforts by connecting with people who don't share your interests and passions.
 
3.      Make the first move.
Meet someone interesting at an event? Ask them to lunch or invite them to do something interesting.  Did they mention an interest of theirs? Send an email and share an interest tidbit that is relevant to them.  Start communicating.  Over time, a friendship can blossom.
 
4.      Host something fun.
A dinner party. Girls night out. A celebration of some sort.  Find reasons to be social and bring people together.  Invite others to invite a friend or two - a great way to meet even more people.
 
5.      Take a look around the office.
You spend a lot of time at work, and it can be a great place to make friends.  In fact, Gallup research has shown that those who say they "have a best friend at work" are more productive and have higher morale.  And if you work from home, get involved in your professional associations or networks that expose you to people in your field, especially if you love your line of work.

 

Choose one of the five strategies above to make a new friend in the next two weeks.