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Week 15: Coach Yourself in 3 Steps
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Week 14: Coach Yourself in 3 Steps
One of the reasons so many people can't find the answers they need for the challenges they face is that they ask themselves the wrong questions - or they never bother to ask questions at all. As a professional life coach, my primary job is to ask the right questions. The kind that shift your perspective or help you see that the answer is obvious, even if the situation is complicated. One of the smartest things you can learn to do is coach yourself in the midst of a dilemma. And there are three, simple steps you can follow to do just that.
1. Get clear about the problem.
In order to get the answer you need, you need to know what problem you're trying to solve. Often, the problem that needs to be addressed in this moment is not about the picture. It's about a detail you have control over in the big picture. Let's say your fear is overwhelming you because you've been laid off and need a job, like yesterday. You may not be able to snap your fingers and land that new job tomorrow, but you can identify a list of personal contacts to start reaching out to before tomorrow with a specific request, such as making an introduction to a decision maker who can help you reach your bigger goal. Pinpoint the issue. Then address it with very specific, focused action.
2. Ask action questions, probing questions and expansive questions.
In my book, Listen to Your Life, I identify three types of self-coaching questions. Probing questions help you delve deeper to uncover hidden fears that may be holding you back: For example, "What are you afraid will happen if you move forward?" Expansive questions help you think bigger and start imagining your dreams: "What would it feel like to double your income in the next 12 months?" Action questions get you moving: "So what's the next step to move you towards that goal and when will you take it?"
3. Tell the truth.
Lastly, but most importantly, you've got to tell the truth! Coaching is only as effective as you are truthful. Be honest about your fears and your desires. It's the only way to get to the authentic answers that will guide you on the path that is uniquely meant for you
My challenge to you:
Be honest with yourself. Identify the biggest issue that you are facing right now.
Journaling Assignment:
What is the next step to move you towards your goal? When will you take it?
Until next time ...
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Valorie Burton, a life coach and speaker, is the author of Listen to Your Life, Rich Minds, Rich Rewards, What's Really Holding You Back?, Why Not You? and her latest, How Did I Get So Busy? The 28-Day Plan to Free Your Time, Reclaim Your Schedule and Reconnect with What Matters Most. Subscribe to her FREE, inspirational e-newsletter at www.valorieburton.com.
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