You do it all, don’t you? You work hard, take care of your kids, keep up with chores and errands, and even try to squeeze in time for romance and relaxation. In a survey of over 300 women for my book, How Did I Get So Busy? The 28-day Plan to Free Your Time, Reclaim Your Schedule and Reconnect with What Matters Most, 80% of moms said they don’t spend enough quality time with their children and 70% of those who are married said they didn’t spend enough quality time with their spouse.

The top three time management challenges for busy moms are no surprise – not enough time for the kids, little time for the husband, and almost no “me time” for you. But if you are intentional, you can create more meaningful moments with the people you love most. Here’s how:

Challenge #1: Not enough quality time with my children

Solutions: Make the simple moments count.

• Have breakfast together (10 minutes).
• Turn off the radio in the car and use the school commute to reconnect.
• Eat dinner together (only 28% of Americans do) and ask, “What’s the best thing that happened to you today?” or some other positive question.
• Make sure your child isn’t left feeling he always has to compete for a slice of your attention - stop what you are doing, look at him, talk to him, listen.

Challenge #2: Not enough quality time with my spouse

Solutions: Make your spouse a priority.

• Plan it, schedule it, and prioritize it.
• Keep a fun file of things you’d like to do together, but keep it simple and doable.
• Work together to set up a date night and stick to it – trade babysitting with another couple, ask family or hire a sitter.
• Put the kids to bed on time so you have alone time together every evening.
• Occasionally, take a weekday off and spend the day together while the kids are at school.
• Call each other during the day just to check in, say “I love you.” Don’t talk about the kids, focus on your spouse.
• Intentionally make the connection with your spouse a priority – ultimately it creates security for the entire family.

Challenge #3: Not enough time for me!

Solutions: Schedule “me” time.

• Schedule appointments with yourself just like any other appointment: an at-home bubble bath, a visit to your favorite bookstore or just a much-needed nap!
• Engage regularly in a hobby or activity you enjoy; you need something you do just because you love it; this will help you reclaim your sense of self.
• And remember that time for yourself doesn’t always mean time by yourself – the fact that 55% of women surveyed haven’t had a friend over in more than two months points to a big issue for moms: isolation.
• Join or start a book club; initiate a once-a-month girls' night out; take a walk with a girlfriend, with or without strollers. These are ways to invest in your sanity while also meeting a need for connection.
• And if you're not inviting someone into your home because it's not Martha Stewart perfect, you need to ask this: “When I visit a friend, am I more interested in whether her coffee table is dusted or whether we have fun together?” Then turn that around and assume their friends also care more about friendship than furniture--and invite someone for coffee this weekend!

Valorie Burton is a professional speaker, life coach and the author of five books, including What’s Really Holding You Back?, Listen to Your Life, and How Did I Get So Busy? The 28-Day Plan to Free Your Time, Reclaim Your Schedule and Reconnect with What Matters Most. Subscribe to her free e-newsletter at www.valorieburton.com and follow her at www.twitter.com/valorieburton.